WHY GIRLS ARE REJECTING YOU IN CAMPUS

The other day I was talking to a campus friend of mine and he confided in me the way girls he was planning to game have been giving him rough time one after the other. I sought to find out why and upon doing my close investigations I realized he had a problem.

First get it in your head that a girl has every right to reject you if she doesn't have deep feelings for you so avoid catching feelings at all cost. Getting angry at a girl you met a few weeks ago only give her more justification to push you away further.

She will probably say 'aki that guy is weird thanks goodness we didn't hook up."

This friend of mine is not the only one with this kind of problem. A lot of other guys I know are a lot like him.

All you need to do is to take rejection in a cool way and show her that it hasn't affected you even an inch. Otherwise you will struggle with severe cases of self-esteem when it comes to courting the opposite sex in future.

Being rejected by a girl is not a death sentence whereas I can't rule out the fact that it dents your pride and ego badly, teach yourself how to subdue your self-worth and move on. Remember that what can't kill you can only make you strong.

An old cliche has it that 'beautiful girls are not yet born' have this as your mantra and if a girl pulls a rejection slip on you the best way is to pretend that nothing happened. By doing so you will be communicating to her an innuendo that she's not the only girl with a pretty ass in this world.


Then it is extremely vital for you to conform to your league. Avoid hitting on girls who are too classy for you. Such types of girls have grown up believing that they are princess and therefore should be treated as such. It's good to be ambitious but the only way to steer out of campus stress is to play your lane. To be honest I'd like to take a girl like Ngina Kenyatta(The president's daughter) to Bahamas and tell her how beautiful her eyes are but I can't. She'll definitely give me blue ticks at my first proposal. No let me put it this way. Ngina Kenyatta doesn't know if someone like me exist in this world. So I play my league because it gives me a probability of success

The other reason why a girl can reject you is that you are not her type. Depending on preferences campus girls have types. Maybe she's looking for a guy who looks like Pascal Tokodi or Otile Brown or a guy who has Chimano's voice or Jericho Rosales's six packs. Ladies nowadays have conjured a narrative to push what they call "unattractive dudes"away. You'll hear them saying that they'd like to get married to brown skin men so they can give birth to beautiful children. It's hogwash and nonsensical but they are entitled to their fantasy and daydream. So let them be.

The best way to hit multiple girls in campus  is to prove yourself by having something special. Be unique, stand out, be distinct, prominence is key, rise up from solitary state of oblivion, be extraordinary not ordinary. You could be a great rugby player, a talented footballer, a funny comedian. An innovator of something great I don't know just do something great. That way any girl will easily fall for your charm hook line and sinker.

Get it! Upgrade your standard and get started.


Photo credit-Jeniffer Mwangi

Written by Ben Mugambi